Some
people have straight hair, some have curly. Some have dark complexion and some
have fair. Some love pink, some love black. Some are sensitive and some our
loud. And some are loud and sensitive. We all differ from each other in our own
way. We are naturally born unique and we have our own external influence that
builds our personality. Nature and nurture. The only thing that makes us the
same is that we are all unique.
Because
of this, criticisms cannot be escaped. We cannot escape the subjective mind, judgmental eyes, and hurtful words from uncontrolled lips of those judgmental people.
Girls wearing simple t-shirt with old jeans and rubber shoes are plain and
boring or boyish. Those wearing sleeveless and mini-skirts are judged as, “socialistas”, or worse, as flirts. Boys
that are more comfortable mingling with girls are judged as gays. Boys with
several earrings are gangsters. Good girls and boys, standing for what is right
are KJs or Kill Joys. Silent people
are weird, loud people are shallow. Muslims are judged as terrorists. That is
how worse judgmental people are.
Words
are painful and it can also hurt our feelings. Some people are really straight
forward or frank they say whatever they want to say, not aware of what other
people might feel. They just release words from their mouth even if it is so
senseless that will just insult other people. Speaking without caring for the
feelings of others may result to bullying someone, emotionally, socially and
psychologically, and it is not good. Yes, it is better to be a straight forward
person than to be a backstabber, but we must think before we speak. Remember
that what you say does not surely define others, but clearly defines who you
are. The worst thing is you frankly insult and you are a backstabber at the same
time. We must always keep in mind that we only know what a person is now, not
his/her whole journey in life, and therefore we shouldn't be that judgmental and easily jump into conclusions.
For
the victims of those judgmental and verbally- careless people, just don’t let
them bring you down. Take it positively; make it an inspiration for you to be a
better person. If what they say are just pure non-sense, then prove them wrong.
And if you hate to be judged, then you must also avoid judging people.
We
all have our own personality, strengths and weaknesses that should be respected
by each one of us. What people think or say about us can be an eye-opener, for
us to change for the better. We must not be violent enough to create nemesis.
If they are just so sassy and gossip beings, don’t let them devastate you. Stand for who you are and be proud to say, “I
AM ME”.
